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Bethany Nicole's avatar

Baby I am READY to talk about Bruno. The son who was “banished” but never really left. And how sometimes, you have to set a place for yourself behind the walls your parents have erected around community. Around family.

This is sooooo good.

I’m a crybaby too.

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

Oh I just caught the walls your parents have erected part of your comment. I’m done 😭

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Bethany Nicole's avatar

You set the table for this one, my friend. Thanks so much for this offering because it has resonated with something deep in me.

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

Not me crying this morning at 7am. I LOST it when it showed that table. 😭

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Ama, Into The Gray Unknown's avatar

Any Mirabels out there🙋🏿‍♀️🙋🏿‍♀️... Or wannabe Mirabels... Waiting for their gift to become clear and still trying daily to show up and not show how much it hurts to not quite fit.

@Robert... I'll talk meanings in Encanto... Or any other "children's" movie/show anytime you want...

Nimona?

The Sea Beast?

Can we talk about the exchange between Ariel and the mer-king in the newest Little Mermaid:

- “Thank you for hearing me.” - Ariel

- “You shouldn’t have to give up your voice to be heard.. - Mer-King

Seriously I have a whole Lessons from Media doc just been looking for a friend to share it with😁... LMK when you're ready 💔💖🫶🏿

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

Ayeeee I love this. Yes to the new Little Mermaid too 👏🏾

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tobi odeyale's avatar

oh wow! seems like i have lots of animations like this to catch up on.

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David Perlmutter's avatar

He loves them, but they don't talk about him? Messed up.

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

Truly indeed

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David Perlmutter's avatar

It's not just the Madrigals who are messed up- it's Disney, too.

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

I actually needed this depiction. It has helped me see parts of my own story clearly

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Tifanei's avatar

Big feelings reading this. "But I love my family." 😭

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

I’m crying down. That line was so emotional

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Bethany Nicole's avatar

It just hits like a lump in your throat, doesn’t it?!

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tobi odeyale's avatar

tifanei!! we see you. Sending you love and hugs. 🫂

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Tifanei's avatar

I receive 🥹🫂🫂🫂

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Angie Maher's avatar

I’m guessing you have lots of Brunos reading this post, Robert, including me. I’ve always been the odd duck, the one who doesn’t fit, the old soul, the empath, the one who never got the invitation to join the rest of the family…because I lived a whole 45 minutes away. I feel you, and I understand you. I wish neither of us were fulfilling this role, but here we are. And we have each other and the other self-identified Brunos who also raise their hand and say, “Me, too.” We’re not alone…and we are fine…just as we are. Just as we were created.

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

Beautifully said. Phew

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Bournetothink's avatar

Sometimes, Brunos like me run away when we grow up because it’s not the time to climb walls. Running away helped me find myself and my voice. Sometimes, no matter what we say or do, it’s not good enough. I loved Encanto because it showed what could be. It was so similar to my own family growing up as far as how the grandmother was very critical and unbending. My mother was that way.

I have adult children, and as a result of my upbringing, I promised each one when they were born that I would love them and show them that love no matter what. Being a Bruno is a challenge but it is who I am and it took me a long time to realize that it’s okay.

Thank you for this post.

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

Whew thank you for your transparency ♥️

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alex b.'s avatar

"I wish I had someone to help me walk into my Gifts. As a child."

Me too. I wonder what my life would've been like if my parents wanted something different for me instead of the military. Would my parents help me along the way? Sometimes, I wish my childhood could've been different and had explored painting and writing more. To please my parents, I didn't bring it up and went to the Air Force instead. But I also believe that the path I'm on is meant to be and my life aligned this way for a reason.

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

Wow your journey 🙏🏾 ♥️

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Lalita's avatar

😭😭😭 I felt this ♥️

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

Whew ♥️

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Noha Beshir's avatar

Sooooooooooooo much feeling here. I loved this so much.

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Thando Nkosi's avatar

woah, i didn’t expect the sudden tears after reading that. thank you for this small gem! 🤧

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

I cried writing it 😭

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Nya S Abernathy's avatar

Uuuuuugh yeeeeeees 😭 what about the ones who are Antonio *and* Bruno?

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

Me 👋🏾 hahaha. I could’ve written so much about that but thought it would get super long

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Janine Agoglia's avatar

I cry at everything. The more I have learned to live myself and own my feelings, the more I cry. Happy, sad, doesn't matter. I started crying within the first 3 minutes of the Barbie movie. I feel you, Robert. Wearing your emotions on your sleeve means you are a deeply feeling human. It's a wonderful person to be. This world needs more of us. Thank you for being here.

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

Whew ♥️

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Alexander's avatar

I just saw this movie last week!! And that moment with Antonio and Mirabel that you describe, and also the earlier one where she gifts him the stuffed animal under the bed: 😭❤️ kindness perfection

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

Oh yeahhh that part too!!!

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Mercy Oz's avatar

I’m a cry baby too😭

And maybe I’m the Bruno in my family…

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

♥️

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Precious Oladimeji's avatar

I love my family. I'm not exaggerating when I say I wouldn't be where I am now without them.

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tobi odeyale's avatar

i noticed the link doesn’t take you to the direct episode but if anyone’s looking for the direct link—here it is:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/3blackmen-talk-encanto/id1535582503?i=1000553546492

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

Oh snap thank you!!

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SarahB's avatar

Spirit brought me to this post today because you replied to one of my comments and then I wanted to hear more from you. Sometimes words seem so inadequate to me that it feels like it cheapens the experience to try to express it in language. So I’ll just say that this was exactly what I needed today and I am grateful from the depths of my soul. ❤️‍🩹

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