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Zefan's avatar

I absolutely loved this series. It makes me think of the people who have had the greatest influence of my views on masculinity — my dad and his brother, mostly — and they’re soft as water. And I’m cautious around anyone different. Now I’m thinking about what makes them so, and how we can leave more space for that. Thanks for this conversation.

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Alex Lewis's avatar

I love that - “soft as water.” Those models of healthy masculinity are so important. I’m glad you have them. Thank you for making space for us to be and become.

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Sharifa's avatar

I can almost hear the intonation and laughter in this conversation! Thank you for the Substack recommendations, too. There are many I adore and some y’all have introduced me to with this post.

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

:))) There were giggles for sure!

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Giggling and cackling 🤣

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Jamal Robinson's avatar

Another beautiful convo fellas! Glad to be among such loving and tender Black men 🙏🏽

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Appreciate you, bro! We hereeee

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Jamal Robinson's avatar

✊🏽

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Shannan Martin's avatar

This is beautiful and I'll read every installment we're lucky enough to receive.

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Thank you, Shannan! Seems like Robert & I need to catch up again soon 🤓

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

awww thanks. I didn’t know how this would resonate with folks

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Karen White's avatar

Wonderful to “overhear” a conversation that’s filled with honesty and soft/strength. This is a really a privilege that I don’t take for granted. Thank you!

Karen

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Thanks for "listening" in, Karen!

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

aww I’m glad you’re part of the overhearing

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Tori's avatar

Thank you for helping me identify my toxic definitions and false expectations of masculinity. I'm hoping it's not too late to walk in this new power with my son.

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

you’re so welcome. and wishing you well.

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15thCenturyFeminist's avatar

This was incredible, and beautiful, and necessary. Thank you for allowing us into these important conversations! Thank you for modeling such beautiful masculinity.

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Thank you for encouraging us to explore our emotions and care for one another. Grateful for your support!

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Robert Jones, Jr.'s avatar

Thank you for this kindness, and for this beautiful conversation. 🙏🏾

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Robert, so glad you’re here. Thank you for loving us and sitting with this conversation 🫂

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Deesha Philyaw's avatar

Thanks for this series. I just subscribed to all the generative (love this!) men you listed. The only one I was already subscribed to was my love Robert Jones Jr.

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

Wayment. You’re on here???? let me follow you real quick. lol. And thank you for reading!

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Karen White's avatar

That “word” : “Wayment” Is that a contraction of, “Wait a minute?”

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Deesha Philyaw's avatar

🙏🏾🫶🏾

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

not one of my favorite writers being on here.

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Deesha!! Thank you for the love, glad you're here 🥹

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Deesha Philyaw's avatar

Your substack is a whole balm! 🙌🏾

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Onyi Ozoma's avatar

This was very meaningful. I appreciated being able to journey with y’all for both parts

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Thanks for going on the journey bro, it means a lot

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Shondra Bowie's avatar

I love this, Alex. What an important conversation. As the mother of a soft young man and the daughter of a hard baby boomer. Knowing these conversations are being had amongst black men is heartening. Thank you for sharing this ❤️

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Alex Lewis's avatar

🥹🥹 thank you, Shondra! I’m glad we got to have it, really appreciate you making time to read

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